The Problem With Millennials

I am 23 years old.

I am a Millennial.

A millennial born into the wrong generation.

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As I get older, I become more and more embarrassed by my generation. This cant be what God intended to fill this planet with…but here we are.

I live in a very conservative town filled with college students. I admire the older people who live around here, but I know they don’t admire us. And I’ll tell you why…

The first problem with millennials is the obsession with technology. Specifically, smart phones. Im not gonna lie and say I dont carry my phone wherever I go, but what I see from other’s my age is absolutely ridiculous. Why do you pay to go out to a restaurant to just stare at your phone? Speak. Have a conversation. Be in the moment.

Social Media is another problem… Now, social media is my life. And I only say that because it is part of my job, it’s how I make money. But those millennials who are CONSUMED with who is doing what, who tweeted what, gotta take a video of this, get a picture of that. Once again, LIVE IN THE MOMENT. Get off your phone and take a second to digest what is happening around you.

I know this blog is sounding like a rant, and well…I guess it kind of is.

Thirdly, entertainment.

TV and movies have found the art of mind control since the 2000’s. Channels like MTV, CNN, and Hulu and Netflix are extremely known for this. Sometimes its very noticeable (cough CNN cough) and other times not so noticeable. This isn’t so much a problem millennials have, but a by-product of their actions. I see right through the shenanigans, but people who aren’t awake, don’t. And they feed right into the mind control. You might be thinking, “mind control? oh, please.” Google it. I promise you, it is very real.

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Lack of Independence…

So I work as a Leasing Manager for a luxury student housing property. I cannot tell you how many phone calls I get from parents trying to solve the DUMBEST issues for their kids. Listen, if you are 18 or older, stop calling mommy and daddy to fix all your problems. YOU ARE GROWN. Simple as that.

Even though I could go on and on about my sad generation. I’ll leave it with this last topic.

Self-Image.

The importance of self-image has gotten out of control. Growing up, people wore what they wanted, didn’t praise clothing and makeup, and had a serious vibe of ‘going with the flow’.

That doesn’t exist anymore.

Plastic surgeries are more common now, hair color is not just blonde, brown, black, or red anymore, less is more with clothing these days. I just don’t get it.

All I have to say is Im saddened by this world. Scared for the future generations. And hopeful for a change. I long to raise my very own kids one day, but with the way kids are growing up these days..it scares me. I don’t want to bring a child into a world where school shootings and bullying is more of a trend than a rare occurrence.

Am I the only one who thinks this way? I cant be the only millennial who has these thoughts.

Let me know what you think.

Happy Hump Day everyone. Stay awesome.

Alexis

xoxo

 

 

 

 

 

Dear College Girls

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that relationships are difficult. I, myself, have only been in one serious relationship. For three years I have been with the man of my dreams, but I can honestly say it has been a roller coaster of ups and downs.

Let me back up a little. Before my junior year of college I was a very free spirit. I joined a sorority immediately, made tons of new friends, and boosted my alcohol tolerance to an unhealthy extent.

I would say this is normal for the time we all live in now. I partied and thought about guys. Basically non-stop. My female hormones were raging. I thought that I would go to parties and find the man of my dreams and live this fun, always on the go lifestyle. No worries.

This blog is for those girls that are like me now when I was in school. Either in college now or an up-coming student.

Im not going to tell you to not party. Im not going to tell you to not drink. That is COMPLETELY normal for a 18+ young girl. Im just going to tell you what I went through, and maybe you can learn from me and avoid this experience.

So before my sophomore year of college, I was a virgin. Yup, very rare these days sadly. And believe me, going to one of the most known schools for partying, there were MANY MANY occasions where temptation was screaming in my face.

My best friend of the time and I worked as a team. She’d always have my back and told me over and over how proud of me she was to have such pure morals. And at parties we’d have a secret signal to give each other when we were a little too uncomfortable with a guy. It was great actually lol. My freshman year of college was definitely one to remember….or forget. Lol. But I made it through the whole year as a virgin, and let me tell you…I’m very proud of myself for that.

Anyways, during the summer I would spend it at home with my parents. They lived about 4 hours away from my school. Well lets just say my friends from back home weren’t as reliable as my best friend who stayed at school during the summer.

One night when I was working a night shift at Chick Fil-a part time I got invited to a party at my hometown’s local college. I knew the girls who invited me were a little on the crazy side, they were at least 2 or 3 years younger than me so they thought it would be cool if I took them to a college party. My first instinct told me to go home, you’re tired, just take it easy. But I didn’t listen.

I rushed home after work to get ready and go see what this party was about. When we arrived to the party, it seemed like a normal rowdy college parties, filled with people who I recognized from high school. Not going to lie, I was having a good time at first.

It wasn’t but 20 minutes into the party when a guy approached me and we started to have a conversation about how he is just on leave from the marines and he knows the guy who lived at the place the party was taking place. He offered me a drink, I took it and continued to party with my friends.

Then I blacked out.

This part is very hard for me to right. But Im going to be blunt and honest.

The next thing I remember is being in a random room on a bed with this guy on top of me. It was too late… my virginity had been taken by a stranger.

I immediately rushed down stairs, grabbed my “friends” who didn’t even notice I was gone, and started balling my eyes out in the parking lot.

Everything that I had promised myself was gone and I felt so much shame surrounding me. I knew I probably wasn’t going to wait until marriage to have sex, but I had never imagined it would happen in such a way.

Girls, please don’t let what happened to me happen to you. Give yourself to a man who loves you, and definitely do not be under the influence when it does happen.

Just a few words of advice from an alumni who has seen it all.

Always have real friends with you when you party. And do like I did with Rachael and have some sort of sign to get out of uncomfortable situations.

Never take a drink from a random person.

DO NOT give your heart to the first guy you meet. They WILL screw you over.

Listen to your gut feeling.

If you are not having fun, just go home and order a pizza and watch a movie. Trust me, staying longer is not going to make the party more fun.

Don’t drink and drive. I was so upset after being raped that I drove home drunk. I could’ve killed myself, or worse, an innocent person.

It is very hard for me to write this. I have only told a few people about this occurrence, but I feel strongly about protecting young women against these issues. I am in NO way a feminist, but this hits home with me.

Until next time,

Alexis

xoxo

 

I’m a Mom!

Ok ok hold up, not that kind of mom.

Last weekend I got my very first fur baby! And let me tell you, everyone was right when they said I’d have my hands full. Being 23 with a full time management job while trying to hold some type of social life is almost near impossible with a little 8 week ball of joy running around peeing on all of my favorite rugs.

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Now let me tell you just how out of my mind I am…

Before we got Blue, our blue tick 4-legged perfection, I put a deposit down for a bloodhound. I’ve always wanted to get a bloodhound and we wont be getting him until mid June. Literally the night I made the deposit, my boyfriend Josh decided he wanted a pup of his own, his dream dog, a blue tick.

Yup, I will have not only ONE child to take care of, but TWO.

Stresses me out as I type this.

But all is good, because I’ve needed something wholesome and pure in my life. Something that brings me immediate joy by just looking at it. Two. Puppies.

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If anyone has any tips, tricks, or puppy supply suggestions, send them my way!

Don’t worry, they are in great hands. ❤

Until next time,

Alexis

xoxo

How To Be Happy

My life is nothing close to being sunshine and smiles. Life is hard. I don’t believe there is a person in this world who doesn’t have days where they truly feel unhappy with their life.

Im all about honesty, so let me dip your toes into a little bit of my personal life. I struggle with anxiety daily. The littlest things will cause me grief and stress, and before I know it, I panic. When I could just sit back and think about how little the situation is, I could avoid these anxiety attacks, but instead I lash out at whatever is near me (usually my boyfriend). My anxiety has caused problems in my relationship and have led me to a lazy lifestyle that altered my normal daily routine: going out with friends, not doing what I am passionate about, and led me to toxic habits.

One day it just clicked inside of me. If I wanted to keep the love of my life around and live a truly fulfilling life, I needed to focus on the most important thing in this world: happiness. 

Recently my sister has been going through a rough time in her life as well… she’s older than me by about 4 years, but she looks up to me. She texts me asking for advice, “how did you become happy again, lex?” “how do I push this gut-wrenching feeling away?”

I simply told her what I told myself. And what I would tell to any girl out there.

If your job sucks, get a new one.

Stop relying on the opposite sex for your happiness. Focus on your needs and passions, incorporate them in it, but don’t let them become it. 

Start exercising.

Take up new hobbies and start something new.

Join a community group.

Balance your personal life with your social life.

Write in a journal.

Volunteer.

Get a puppy.

In the beginning these things may just seem like distractions, and well…they are. But before your brain can even process it, these things will become your life. 

Are you laying in bed right now reading this? Get the F*** up. No day is promised to you, fulfill each day with surroundings that make you smile, feel loved, and give you purpose.

Comment down below things that make you happy. Are you unhappy? Why? Feel free to reach out to me!

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Until next time,

Alexis

xoxox

 

I Need a Vay-Cay

Oh, what a year it has been for me. Just when I thought I was getting in the swing of things, life hits hard.

In my last post I mentioned how I was starting a new job as a leasing specialist for a luxury student housing complex. Well…just kidding!! Let me tell you how being a “#girlboss” really pays off.

One huge part of that job was giving potential residents tours of the property, kinda how real estate agents show houses. Being that I graduated with a degree in public relations, that was kinda my thing. Multiple parents and even the management complimented me on how well I toured everyone. Well on one lucky day for me, a manager from a competing housing complex came to tour the property and was in awe by my skills. Only a week later I had the president of their corporate reach out to me and basically offered me a management position at their luxury housing complex… and let me tell you, the offer was a no brainer.

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So, here I am job hopping. Hoping that I can finally decide where I wanna go in life and how I want to succeed with all my efforts.

hint: I still have zero clue

In other news, I guess I’m trying to fill a void in my life that has been tugging at my heart and soul (a little dramatic) for a little while. IM GETTING A PUPPY! In June, I will be receiving my very first fur baby… the breed? Well I guess you’ll just have to wait and see 😉

Im also still working hard on my YouTube channel. This has been something that I have been wanting to start, and succeed with for years now. I’ve always been a viewer but never a creator and I feel like I have a voice and personality that I want the world to see and hopefully love. Living in a small small southern town, if you want to succeed, you must really put yourself out there.

Follow my YouTube channel here:

http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmlib-qagflNb_8fYfgAbkA

Well thats all for now,

Alexis

xoxo

 

How To Be a #GirlBoss

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It’s no surprise that being an adult is anything but sunshine and roses. Being a recent college graduate, I’ve begun to experience the true meaning of growing up. The bills and responsibilities are not fun, but the main factor that screamed “YOU ARE NO LONGER A STUDENT/TEENAGER/DO WHAT YOU WANT WHEN YOU WANT TO” was the lack of free time and true reality of finding a job that makes me happy.

So a little context….I recently just went through a job transition that basically transformed my life. When I graduated college it was very hard to find a full time job with the degree I had (Public Relations) around the very small town that I live in. I eventually found a job in Marketing that was an hour away from my house. DO NOT DO THIS PEOPLE. Driving an hour to and from work every day is not only expensive but very exhausting. Also, don’t always take the first job that is handed to you… really weigh out your options and think about what it is that you want to spend 8+ hours a day doing for the rest of your life. And for me folks, this job that I had wasn’t it.

It was about 5 months into the job when I truly started to become unhappy. At first, I was forcing myself to deal with it, but I slowly started seeing my happiness fade, my energy to decrease, and my motivation to basically dissolve into nothingness…

It dawned on me. I need to empower myself. I need to find my strengths and dive in head first into the professional world. How did I do this? Im here to share this advice with you so that those of you who are truly unhappy with your profession can better yourself and ultimately and more importantly better your LIVES. If a 23 year old can do it, than anyone can.

  1. BE CONFIDENT

This will be the first and most important step in this process. When I began my very first career job, my confidence was mediocre. I had excellent interview skills, but zero networking and professional experience. It didnt take long for me to get the hang of speaking to others who had YEARS of experience on me, but I gained confidence through getting out of my comfort zone. Those who I met took me seriously because of the confidence I radiated in the room.

Go to your local mall and spend some of your hard earned money on some clothes that make you feel good about yourself. I promise when you dress nice, you feel nice about yourself.

2. JOIN A NETWORK

Joining an online network of those in your profession is a great source for learning and expanding your skills. I have joined some marketing networks that have taught me more than I did studying in college. You will meet others who have been doing what you are doing your whole life and then some!

LinkedIn is a great way to start this. Not only can you show off your experience and knowledge but you can connect with others that may benefit you in some way in the future.

3. BUILD A BOMB ASS PORTFOLIO

I started building my portfolio my senior year of college. If you aren’t sure what a portfolio is, it’s basically a big binder that shows off your writing, job experience, creative work, resume, and basically whatever you think would impress employers. ALWAYS bring a portfolio and leave-behind folder to every interview.

4. DO ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING TO BUILD YOUR SKILLS

One thing I liked to do to better myself was listening to podcasts and books on my audible app during my long commute every morning and afternoon. I also read countless articles and watched YouTube videos written and filmed by my favorite marketers. Conferences and network events are also an incredibly easy way to learn and build your connections with other professionals who can teach you a thing or two.

Moral of the story is, you don’t have to settle for less than you deserve. At my last job I literally sat behind a desk for 9 hours a day with nothing to show for myself and no room for growth. I was fed up. I put on my big girl panties and started applying for jobs that I didn’t even think I had enough experience for…and then it happened. I got a job offer from a luxury student housing complex in my hometown. I work with people closer to my age, manage events, and i’m on my feet almost all day. No day is the same. Is it my dream job? No. But i do love it and I am very proud of myself for realizing where my life was and where it needed to be.

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So how are you going to be a #girlboss today? Stop thinking about where your life may be tomorrow, and start acting on the today.

Leave a comment below telling me about your #girlboss experience, or how you are going to become a #girlboss.

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Until next time,

Alexis

 

 

Why I Turned Down The “Big City Dream”

Barn edited“Why’d you choose to move down here when you could be living and working in the city?” This is a question I’m asked a lot. People are genuinely curious as to why I wouldn’t move to the city, where my parents live, and work a big corporate PR job and make tons of money.

My answer has never changed.

I moved to South Georgia for college. I spent four wonderful years in a small college town where there is nothing to do but to go to the local bars and drink enough where you’re no longer bored, ride dirt roads (miles and miles of them around here), or attend house parties.

But the University is not what made me fall in love with the area. The small town feel mesmerized me. Ever since I was little id tell my family and friends that I wanted to live on a farm and marry a southern boy. I’m not sure if it was my love for animals or just the completely different culture.

honey suckle editedSo go ahead, ask me… “”Why’d you choose to move down here when you could be living and working in the city?”

The thought of making more money is something no logical person would ever be opposed to. For me, getting stuck in Atlanta traffic for a good hour or more after my 9 to 5 shift is far from appealing. Speaking with people of MANY different cultures, states, and mindsets compared to the simple and sweet southern hospitality of everyone you meet, there’s no question which id rather do. Money is not worth it for me.

tree 2 editedThe pictures in this blog are worth a thousand words. Mile after mile I drive around this town and immediately see something new I want to capture. The area is absolutely beautiful. Sure, it may be extremely hot during the summers and the gnats are very aggravating. But I would never trade the gorgeous vast fields and bright green grass God produced for us for some man-made concrete.

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If you have never been to Georgia, or anywhere in the south…add it to your bucket list. I promise you that the crazy incest hillbillies that the media portrays the south to be is far from what you will encounter. Sweet tea, porch swings, sunflower fields, huge oak trees and a smile from a stranger will keep you here.

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Check out my photo gallery for more pictures that I have taken! There are plenty more to come.

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xoxo

Alexis

My New Year’s Resolution: The Key To Sticking With It

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Every year I constantly see people tweeting, Facebooking, and sharing their New Year Resolution’s online… how they are drastically going to change their lives, their health habits, the amount of money they spend, and so on and so forth. But we all know these things rarely ever happen. We’re all guilty of it. I’m totally guilty of it.

Last year my New Year goal was the lose weight and to just be completely healthy all around. Well, to be honest. I kicked butt for a good while. I started working out every single day and eating very healthy, which was pretty hard considering I was a full-time student, had a part-time job, and made very little money to spend on healthy groceries.

This lasted about 3 or 4 months. To be completely honest with you, I have no idea what made me stop. I cant remember for the life of me what made me quit. If a holiday rolled around, or if something drastic happened and I took a few days off and just didn’t get back into the routine..who knows?

But, with all this being said… I’m not a quitter. I’m challenging myself to this resolution once again. I don’t necessarily think I’m a “fat”, but hey, losing a few pounds would be nice. Also, I just want to be healthier all together. Being healthy is SO important to me. I eat pretty healthy on a day to day basis. I RARELY eat fast food anymore. I take vitamins every day, mostly drink water, and pack a healthy lunch for work every single day.

So, Lets talk details.

To achieve this goal of mine I will be doing the following:

  1. Daily workouts and recording how many sets of each workout I do so I can refer back each day and slowly challenge myself a little more. (I will keep a cute little journal to do this so I can stay organized and make it easier on myself!)
  2. Cut out sugars (soda, candy, junk food, etc), whites (carbs, pasta, etc.), and processed foods (frozen foods).

THIS WILL NOT BE EASY.

I’ve kept asking myself over and over what would be the best day to start this because this will not be easy for me. But, there is no other day than today. If you really want something in life you have to just go for it.

Do you have a New Year Resolution? What’s important to you? Let me know!

Or if you want to join this challenge with me, let me know, I’d love to share my detailed workout schedule with you.

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xoxo

-Alexis